★ Why we are called Lovers in Transition ★
We have decided on the name Lovers in Transition or LiT for a number of reasons. For starters, we are, in fact, lovers - and we have both been through a number of transitions together - both of us coming out as queer, Riley coming out as a non-binary trans* guy, being in a long-distance relationship, and dealing with the changes involved with these matters that affect ourselves, friends, family, and other peers.
A transition is a passage of one position, condition, etc. to another. We are lovers in transition - forever striving for that which brings us happiness and freedom.
★ Our Story ★
Both avid bloggers and social media users, Tashia ended up stumbling across one of Riley’s blogs one day and began following his work. After a while, her respect and admiration of him developed into something more. On May 18th of 2011, Tashia took it upon herself to tell her crush how she felt about him. To Tashia’s surprise, the two ended up conversing through the night via skype. As the days progressed, the two talked more and more each day and eventually exchanged phone numbers. From then on, the both of them grew more fond of the other. Wanting to take their relationship further, they deciding to meet in Chicago - Riley’s home. Before Tashia left, the both of them discussed the possibility of becoming lovers - with both being quite enthused about the idea.
Tashia and Riley ‘officially’ met at Chicago’s O’Hare airport on September 4th of 2011. Before Riley could even muster up the courage to ask Tashia to be his girlfriend, Tashia asked him instead. It was the first time that anyone had ever asked Riley to be their boyfriend - with the pronoun he had wanted to hear for so long. The wonderful time they spent together was a blur of random adventures. They became closer than they had ever imagined - through good times and bad. Never before had either of them had someone that not only cared about them, but also understood them as a person. They helped each other come out and deal with life’s other stressful situations. Through thick and thin, the two of them had each other.
When the time came to say goodbye on November 20th, 2011 - they promised to be in each other’s arms again soon. Tashia and Riley endured a long-distance relationship again - with Tashia residing in Lousiana and Riley in Illinois. Despite the distance, their love and affection grew every day. They both found new ways to express their fondness of each other.
Now, Tashia and Riley happily reside together in Central Illinois in a loft with their cat companion Deg.
★ About Tashia ★
Tashia is a twenty-two year old queer cannabis activist from Louisiana. She started the first NORML chapter in her state - along with her own not-for-profit, Compassionate Louisiana. The intent of her work is decriminalization with a strong focus on access to cannabis for suffering patients.
★ Some of her other interests are: Politics. Feminism. Social media. Psychology. Business. Marketing. Human rights. Activism. Queer porn. Reading. Doing crafts. Street art. Body modification. Religion. Current events. Food. Travel. Technology. Queer culture. Art. Body acceptance and positivity. Sex positivity. Daydreaming about creating her own commune on an isle somewhere in the Pacific.
★ Tashia uses ‘she/her/hers’ pronouns.
★ About Riley ★
Riley is a twenty-five year old non-binary (genderqueer) transgender* queer blogger/writer and artist from Chicago, Illinois. Most of his work focuses on queer and trans* culture - as well as human rights in general. He created and currently moderates three of his own other blogs: Project Queer, Riley XXX (18+), and his personal blog where he updates folks about his transition and such.
★ Some of his other interests are: Queer culture & politics. Gender studies. Art. Activism. TransFeminism. Intersectionality. Anarchism. Body & Sex-Positivity. Animals. Nature. Music. Films. Body modification. Current events. Sociology. Criminology. DIY culture. Thrifting. Queer porn. And promoting/discussing safe sex work & sex-worker rights.
★ Riley uses ‘he/him/his’ pronouns.